My post “How QuiltCon Disturbed Me” has been a huge topic of conversation in our home and among friends this week. And thank you readers for your comments. It’s been great because we’re talking about quilts and art and creativity… and it’s caused me to start thinking about the things I do a little differently. Not as in I’m going to change myself, because I do “hear my own voice”, but maybe I’ll take a different approach when I make my next quilt.
My husband, Paul, had a lot to say about my post, so I thought I’d give him a chance to say what’s on his mind.
My wife said this on her blog a few days ago:
If a picture is worth a 1,000 words, an action is worth 100,000 words. Our actions always speak louder than anything we can say. So what does it say when you create something for someone else that you consider “pretty”? What does it say when my wife gives an expectant mother a baby quilt?
The first thing that comes to mind is that she cares enough for that person to do something for them. Most of the time that comes out as an “I know your Mother well enough and think enough of her to spend a couple dozen hours planning, buying fabric, cutting and sewing a quilt that will wrap her child in warmth (both physically and emotionally). And I care enough to make it by hand so that it is unique, rather than buy something mass-produced”. Sometimes that takes a different form when a quilt is blindly given, “I have felt a need in my heart and while I have no idea where this quilt will go, the very idea that someone needs a blanket moves me to create this and hope that is will bring comfort”.
After the hubbub happened a few days ago, Thomas posted a graphic that said, “Go Make Shit”. Why did he boil it down to this? Creating something is one of the most powerful actions there is. Period. I, personally, hold that the creation of something that we consider beautiful for someone else and giving it unconditionally is one of the ulitmate ways of showing real love to another. But just the mere act of creating changes us even if no one else ever sees it. I could spend quite a bit of time talking about creating, but even if it’s something that is just an “experiment” or an “I wanted to learn a new technique”, the message we are saying to ourselves and others is a very loud “my craft is important enough to me that I’m going to push myself to learn something new…to do something better”.
My office may be a bit strange in that almost all of my employees have drawings/paintings from their kids when they were very young on their walls, even though all of those children are now adults. Why don’t they take them down? Probably for the same reason that we sleep with one of my wife’s earliest quilts on our bed. The edges are fraying, the cloth is thinning and it’s really not a style that fits her now. Why hasn’t she made a new one or even taken the old one off the bed? Because it speaks to us. There is no mute creation, ever.
Back to me:
I made this quilt for our bed about 12 years ago. I’m not a fan of it now because, my style has changed a lot since then. I was so proud of myself at the time, because, you know, it’s king-sized! I had to do things my way, so I didn’t take direction from the pattern as to how my light and dark fabrics should be laid out. I’m not sure it made a difference, but I sometimes wonder.
What I notice the most is how a majority of my triangles don’t have points. I really just sewed this thing together with no real awareness of what was going to happen when the next row was sewn on. I’m pretty sure I just wanted to get it done because we needed something warm on the bed.
The best part of making this quilt, and what I remember the most, is quilting it with my mom. We moved the furniture in her living room, stretched the quilt on the frame and spent an estimated 100 hours hand-quilting it together (and probably with a musical in the VCR). We quilted diagonal rows about an inch-and-a-half apart. First one direction, and then the other. It took days and days. It’s been thrown up on by cats, snuggled under by each of us when sick and probably used to build a fort.
So, I was mistaken. My quilts DO speak. I just had to take the time to listen.